Monthly Archives: January 2009

“I’m busy,”

We hear that all the time, don’t we? We don’t seem to have enough “time” to do anything other than…whatever it is that we do that got us to that “busy” state. Work, football, TV, revisions, assignments, sleep. All of a sudden, the phrase, “The MSc has taken over my life,” came to mind. Ha ha. But yah~ You know what I’m saying right?

It’s ironic how we claim to be more busy today when all sorts of technology have been invented to do things for us in less time. Internet. Microwave. Phone. Robots. Then when we compare ourselves with the people centuries ago; they had to travel by camels, build houses with their own hands, fight in battles, worship God, spread the word of God. When advanced technology was still an unimaginable notion, people were still able to do everything that they had to do and more. I’m sure the number of hours, minutes and seconds today are in the same quantities as it was centuries ago. Yet, we’re always complaining about how little time we have. So why are we always so “busy”? What is it that we do that makes us feel as if there’s not enough time?

….Oh wow! Masya Allah. Is this what they mean by, when the end of time is close, we’d feel as if the time passes by really fast? Is it because we let our days be wasted with non-beneficial things and before we know it…ah! An hour has gone. If we were to watch an epic more…ah! Now that’s 3 hours have gone! Oh dear..

 

By the time. Verily Man is in a state of loss Except such as have Faith and do righteous deeds and exhort one another to Truth and exhort one another to endurance (Al-Asr: 1-3)

 

In reference to a recent news article published on 19th Jan 2009 entitled “Umbrella Organisation Needed For Youth Clubs To Boost Volunteerism”, I would like to say – It’s about time, y’all!

 

 Let me quote a few paragraphs from the article.

 

The discouraging number of youth volunteers has brought about the need for the establishment of an active, structured organisation for local youth organisations in the country to disseminate information and boost the spirit of volunteerism amongst the nation’s youth.

 

“We could set up a youth advisory hoard or something so that youths can come together and easily volunteer in organisations based on their interests,”

 

 

When asked why there was a discouraging number of youth volunteers, the opinions that were given were:

 

  1. Youths always expect something in return for their good deed.

 

Simply because when it comes to volunteering, most youths expect rewards in return. For example, most would ask if they will get certificates at the end of the volunteering work. We still lack youths who are really into volunteerism without any expectations in return.”

 

  1. Youths just don’t know about these things.

 

Another possible reason why volunteerism is not active in Brunei is because people here are not exposed and well-informed about the social problems in Brunei,”

 

 

Yes, yes, and YES! Brunei is such a safe country. It’s a comfortable country. Things come easy, and I think we often take our blessings for granted. Just because most of us have 5 TVs in our house, 4 cars per household, 2 mobile phone lines, and a dSLR, it doesn’t mean that all Bruneians are that well off.  We can’t keep expecting the government to do everything. Our Sultan and his government has been more than generous towards us, and it’s time we do something in return. We can’t keep sucking them dry of their resources. Thus, I strongly believe that WE should also take some responsibility in helping the people in our community.

 

Dibah, a representative from the Humanitarian Affairs Volunteers Group, also said that the only way to increase the number of youth volunteers is through education and with the help of the media. Another, yes, yes, and YES!

 

Through education, students can be informed on a wider scale on the reasons and benefits of volunteerism and the media also plays an important role in disseminating information on youth volunteerism, she said.

 

 

So what should we do now? Well, I would like to echo the words that were said and published in this news article. An umbrella organisation that can bring organisations and the youth together is a perfect place to start. Let’s form a hypothetical organisation now and call it…The Tipping Point (TTP). Forgive me for my lack of creativity, yah.

 

The TTP would have a database of all the organisations that welcome volunteers, and the type of volunteering posts they offer.  TTP could also provide certificates and/or testimonials on the volunteering activities of each volunteer. This goes back to the point raised by Dibah, whereby youths often expect rewards for their volunteering acts. I believe this is a rather resonable expectation. Yes, I agree how it is best that we should provide help with sincerity, and not expect anything in return. However, we have to be realistic that that’s not how, sadly, a majority of us work. There will always be that reciprocal relationship amongst each other. Thus, to encourage more youth to volunteer, TTP would provide incentives for their good deeds. TTP could record keep a record of all the different places the consumers have volunteered, together with the details such as job descriptions and maybe even testimonials from each employer, if requested. When the consumers need all the information, they could just request it from the organisation – and ta-da! There you have it! The secret ingredient to a bombastic CV!

 

As mentioned in the article, another reason as to why there’s a low number of youth volunteers is the lack of awareness. Ok. How often do we read in Borneo Bulletin, or hear on the Kristal FM about volunteering opportunities? Well, I can tell you that in a year, I hear almost nil (or maybe none at all, to be honest). I don’t remember growing up in Brunei hearing about places where we could volunteer…other than in performances for the National Day, His Majesty’s Birthday, and other similar events.  Maybe there was only that one gig during my lower secondary years where I heard about a one day volunteering job at the old folks’ home in Seria. That was it. And yes, we do sometimes see and hear of students coming together to help clean up, help out, etc at  Pusat Ehsan and the likes of it. And that’s really good. But surely there has to be more places where the youth could volunteer? So what’s the problem here? Well, maybe we were just never told about it.

 

So if we want TTP to succeed and reach the target consumers we’d need a good marketing strategy. The target consumer here is the youth, so choosing the right channels is crucial. Don’t expect the young Bruneians (as long as your 25-40 years old, you fall under this “young Bruneians” ;) ) to turn up for anything if you’re advertising at Rangkaian Harmoni, or Pelita Brunei. Learn their lifestyle, and market accordingly. You have to know what they’re listening to, what they’re watching, and where they’re going. For instance, using the radio to inform about the new volunteering organisation. Since we’re targeting the youth, we might advertise at Kristal FM and/or Rangkaian Pelangi (I believe these stations are quite popular amongst the young and hip, ya?), and we’d choose a time slot where we can be SURE that majority of the target consumers (i.e. youth) would be listening in, i.e. when they’re driving to and from school, after school hours, and at night. Also, if I may add, there’s no better way to reach the youth other than through their schools. So schools should also be informed about TTP, so that they could communicate the information to the students.

 

On top of all this, TPP need to enter the market, society, pick your platform, with a BANG! The official opening of the volunteering organisation could become an opportunity for us to educate the public. The launch should include a promotion of the different types of organisations that welcome volunteers, and also talks on the advantages of volunteering. We could have different speakers to touch on the different aspects of volunteering (e.g. somebody from human resources, kementrian hal ehwal ugama, kementrian kebudayaaan belai dan sukan). This could probably go on for 2-3 days, perhaps? Gives the public the opportunity to come whenver they can. Yes, this comes under marketing too.

 

After all these boxes have been ticked, TTP’s mark and impact should  be maintained. They have to keep afloat in the lives of the youth, and not to be forgotten. Advertising should be conducted on a variable interval intermittent schedule. i.e. after an average lapse of time, TTP should advertise. Behaviours maintained on an intermittent schedules are known to be harder to break, and easier to sustain. Hee~ 

 

 

In conclusion, I support the suggestion on the need to develop an organisation that could be a platform in providing volunteering opportunities for the youth. With the right intention, a solid network and the right marketing strategies, insya Allah, the organisation can prosper and do great things for the community. The Bruneian youth, WE, need to be given the opportunity to help others who are not as “fortunate” as we are. WE need to be given the opportunity to show our gratitude for the blessings that have been bestowed upon us by helping others.  WE need to be given more choices on how we can fill our time (other than just lepak or go out on dates).  

 

The believers, men and women, are Auliya’ (helpers, supporters, friends, protectors) of one another, they enjoin (on the people) Al-Ma’ruf (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do), and forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islam has forbidden)… (Surah At-Taubah: 71)

It’s Monday!! And today – the new semester begins *some medieval background music*

Excited much? Nahh~ It’s fabricated. Caffeine fuelled :D

Many apologies for the lack of updates. You know how it is. School. Essays. Deadlines. Pfft~ But worry not! As of 8am this morning, all three essays were successfully completed and printed! Alhamdulilah. So I’m gonna hop back onto the pixie-scribs saddle and ride this blogsphere!!

Errr…

Ok…Maybe I’m the last person you should expect to come up with poetic analogies with fancy vocabulary…especially with all the caffeine and lack of sleep! But you know what I’m sayin’ right~?

Ok. I’m gonna get ready for uni. WELCOME BACK, SCHOOL!!!

One of the fundamentals in life is decision making. We always find ourselves in situations where we are forced to make choices. To have coffee or tea? To wear jeans or slacks? To watch another episode of Grey’s Anatomy or just go to bed? Decisions. Decisions. Decisions. Well I  personally think that a majority of life’s decisions are like choosing between a McD burger or burger tamu (stall). 

mcdonaldsvoucher-copyEach time I’m back in Brunei, I always look forward to eating a McD burger. Not those fish fillet or burgers that are suitable for vegetarians. But a real McD burger with real meat! The taste of meat, HALAL meat, between those two buns is just..awesome! If you want to shut me up or bribe me to shut up, a McD burger will surely do the job. That’s how much I love my McD burgers. As for burger tamu.  For one, I hardly ever go to the tamu.  Second thing is, the burgers they sell are not appetising at all. They’re all tiny and taste like any burgers that can be made at home. No wow-factor there. They’re just not as good as those McD burgers.

But let’s rethink the situation here. 

McD burgers taste heavenly. Tamu burgers taste rather plain. But, McD isn’t the best company one would want to be associating with. Affiliation with Israel and its military and all that.  So supporting McD is similar to supporting their affiliations. As for the tamu burgers, sure they don’t taste as good as McD burgers but they’re still burgers, right? They still keep the tummy full, right?  And buying a burger from the tamu is like helping our own people and our own economy. So in the long run, there is some good in deciding to buy the burgers from the tamu rather than from McD. And surely we can forgo a bit of the pleasure we get from eating a McD burger for the greater good? 

So yes. Life is fundamentally about choosing between your versions of McD burgers and a tamu burgers. Sometimes we just have to sacrifice those little pleasures in life that are nothing more than temporary, for the pleasures in the Hereafter that are most definitely permanent and lasting.

In reality, the wealth that Allah gives a person is a trial while the poverty that a person experiences is also a trial. Sometimes, the test of “having” is much more difficult than the test of “not having”. When one is a have-not, one may not have many options available to him save to remain patient and put one’s hopes in Allah to make things better. However, when one has wealth, many doors of disobedience to Allah can be opened for him. Hence, this can be a very difficult trial. He may only be successful in such a trial if he has some training that develops within him the proper discipline and self-control. This training should remind him of where that wealth came from in the first place – from Allah- and what a wonderful bounty it is for him to use that wealth in a proper manner.  This training and development of will power is provided for him in the obligation of zakat.

 

Zarabozo (2002).  Purification of the Soul: Concept, Process and Means. Al Basheer Publications & Translations: Denver, p. 226-227.

The funny thing about wealth is that…

 

When you think you don’t have enough; you’d be finding ways on how to get more and more.

When you think you have too much wealth; you’d be finding ways on how to hide them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

If your fathers and your sons and your brothers and your spouses and your clan, and the wealth which you have acquired, and the commerce whereof  you fear a decline, and the dwellings in which you take pleasure – [if all these] are dearer to you than God and His Apostle and the struggle in His cause, then wait until God makes manifest His will; and [know that] God does not grace wrongdoing folk with His guidance. (At-Taubah:24)

Today marks the 23rd day of the Gaza conflict. It has been reported that the number of deaths in Palestine has totaled up to about 1, 203 deaths. Children, women, civilians. I hope that we can all agree that it’s the bloodshed of these innocents that is becoming one of the main sources of our outrage. It’s these indisciminate killings that are urging us to come together and help battle this merciless massacre. So without a doubt, death is definitely one of the agendas that is of our great concern. Thus, this increase in death tolls in Palestine should in fact be  a reminder for us to remember our own deaths.  gaza140109-7

Now, let’s think about a happy place like Brunei. Brudirect reported that in 2007,  54 car accidents have lead to deaths. Is there any political unrest going on in Brunei? Is there a war there? Ah~ So people also die in happy places like Brunei. 

So what’s my point? My point is that we don’t need to be in Palestine or to be in a war to expect our own deaths. When the time comes; it will come. There would be no way of delaying it nor forwarding it. It can happen anytime and in any circumstances.  For those who lost their lives in car accidents, do you think that any of them got into their cars knowing that their time would come? Did they get into their cars knowing that they’d be in a car accident and end their lives there and then? 

Not only is death unexpected, but death is also the only thing in life that is certain. We can never be sure if we’re going to pass that exam, or get that wedding we always dreamed of, or meet up with a best friend the next week. But death is certain. Each and every one of us will definitely taste death. And this is the reality that we often forget. 

Say, we did find out how much time we have left to live. What would we do? We’d be busy preparing for death, of course. But we can never be certain how much time we have left, right?  So with this realisation,  I don’t think anybody in the right mind would ever want to waste their time on this earth. We wouldn’t be wasting it away consciously committing sins, or being ungrateful to God’s blessings. We wouldn’t want to be leaving this world in compromising and shameful situations. Instead, we’d want to strive to remain under God’s Grace and Mercy. Does it make sense now as to why God advised us humans to remember death often? 

I hope that the deaths of people in Gaza can be a lesson for us.  I hope that it would become a constant reminder of how we should also remember about our own deaths.  I hope that it is clear to us that we don’t have to be old and grey to be expecting death; nor do we need to be in an unstable and troubled country to be worried about it. With each day that goes by, the grave is calling us.  So let us all remind one another to not waste our limited time on this earth. Let us draw ourselves closer to God and seek his Mercy and Forgiveness.  Let us all help each other in enjoining what is good and forbidding what is evil;  so that we could all be saved in the Hereafter.

Imma gonna be havin my last day of exams today! 2 papers – morning and afternoon. Double whammy! It’s amusing how I’d need to get on a bus from Uni to actually sit for the second exam. Har har har.

Pray for me, people!

Can one get drunk by eating too many grapes? Is it many grapes or is it much grapes? I have an excuse. English isn’t me mother tongue :D

Had my first paper this morning. It was a computer based exam. It was on single case design, and we had to draw up a graph and answer a few questions based on the data available.

All of us were taken by surprise with the question. We only had TWO lab sessions and neither sessions really mentioned that much on the format of the exam. With practically zilch revision on the 1 out of 2 parts of the paper, all praise to God, I still managed to answer it. Though, I can’t say I was smiling when I walked out of the room. I was amused…but not confident. Hah. Am I taking life too lightly here? All in all, nobody was really happy with the exam. But then again, who ever does?

So the moral of the story is…do not take things for granted. Even when there is absolutely no indication that that particular chunk of the module are to be tested – read it! You might be in for a surprise.

2 more papers on Thursday, and then I’ll have 11 days to complete all of my 3 courseworks. Awesome.

I’m okay with it if a relative decides to make fun of me because I decided to wear a jubah rather than a body shaping baju kurung. I can deal with racist remarks or somebody tugging my tudong. But the one thing that makes me flinch (outwardly AND inwardly) is when the past decides to bite me in the rear end. It’s easy to lose focus and, sometimes rationality, when the mind is too clouded by emotions.

It’s okay. It’s okay. I’m going to be patient, and I’m going to be patient. I’m going to be patient and seek refuge from Allah from the whisperings of the syaitan, and from the evilness of this soul.

….*breathe*….

All the best to those who are sitting for exams :)